The Unitarian Church, Brunswick Square, Bristol. 14th November 2010
The Brahma Kumaris WSP offer free talks and workshops on raja yoga meditation, positive thinking, stress-free living and self-esteem. They also run men’s and women’s spiritual groups, a monthly world meditation hour and retreats at their centre in Oxfordshire.
Davina Lloyd came from London to deliver this workshop on self-esteem and we began by examining what it is and how you behave when you have it and how you are when you don’t. A definition was then offered that “self-esteem is how we feel about and value ourselves at any given moment” and how it increases when we realise our capacity for change.
Davina then used the brilliant analogy of comparing ourselves to icebergs. No, she didn’t mean we’re cold, hard and capable of sinking ships! But how we have 10% of ourselves visible above the surface and 90% below or inside ourselves and how much of this inner potential is untapped. On the outside is our ego, family, friends, career, culture, etc and internally is our wisdom, soul and consciousness; a place where many of us fear to tread.
She explained this further by correlating our external lives as plays with us acting out a script. But this is only a role and many of us have forgotten we’re acting. We’ve forgotten who we really are on the inside. And she suggested writing ourselves new scripts with positive affirmations , summarised by parodying that well know commercial “because I’m worth it” or if you live in Bristol, “cuz Ize wurf it!”
We worked in pairs on various exercises and the afternoon drew to a close with Davina’s top 7 ways of improving self-esteem:
- Do something you’ve been putting off.
- Learn something new.
- Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself.
- Do something nice for someone else.
- Do things that use your own special talents.
- Appreciate something that you’ve done today.
- Do something scary.
This was the last workshop of the year that Brahma Kumaris will be running in Bristol, but they will be back with a new programme in 2011. I felt the afternoon was very worthwhile and interesting and everyone was very friendly and welcoming.